Loving Your Kids to the Core (Plus, FREE Printable Wall Art)

by Meghan Fowler

I like you.

I love you.

I want you.

I accept you.

Countless times have I spoken these words to my children. These four short sentences have become my parenting mantra. They are words my heart thrills to in moments where my real-time experience makes them easy to mean. And they are words I wrestle to the ground in moments where I don’t feel the truth of them. In those times they are prophecy; they are me calling forth something I can’t see, naming something buried (even if for the moment) in my kid, or as it happens, in myself.

They tell a deep and wide story. They echo the story told to us, spoken over us, the timeless story we inhabit as humans. A story of sacrifice and love and desire and acceptance. A story of being seen and known and still perfectly loved.

Isn’t this what we want our kids to know, in their own hearts? Like, DEEPLY believe?! I want the knowledge of their belovedness to be the very substance of their core.

Picture of Author and her childI want them to feel deeply okay, to feel deeply safe. I would give anything to climb right into their little hearts and minds and pour out an unadulterated version of this relentless, boundless love – you know, to bypass the filter of their misconceptions, their particular love languages, etc., and just plant the belief in their belovedness way deep down and lock it there forever. It kind of kills me that I can’t, that I can’t get right in there and make them know things that I know for them.

In some ways humans are unbearably alone. There are spots we can’t reach in each other. We are alienated, unable to completely know, completely see, completely connect with – even completely love – each other. Gah! I feel like I am reaching soooooo hard sometimes, reaching so hard for these little people that are mine. My inability to do this, to shore up their centers, to make them believe and know things in their innermost parts, it makes me feel an overwhelming sense of powerlessness. I can help them to be well attached, to be well balanced, to know love, positive-regard, acceptance. But I can’t do it perfectly and I can’t do it completely.

But then I think of Psalm 139:1 “ You have searched me, Lord, and you know me…” You know me!! You KNOW me. Guys, he knows our kids. And this mantra,

I like you.

I love you.

I want you.

I accept you.

Those are the words he would speak over them.

So as I do it, on repeat, I remind myself that my words are an echo of the voice of their creator, who knows them deeply, and can reach all the places I can’t.

Author and her daughter

I will probably repeat this quote many times in this blog, but it’s just so darn important and salient in so many topics: Corrie Ten Boom, a concentration camp survivor, wrote,

There is no pit so deep that the Love of God isn’t deeper still.

And I think to myself, “where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence?”

This God knows us completely, and he delights over us.

I like you.

I love you.

I want you.

I accept you.

We’ve created a free printable of this. So if this speaks to you, you are welcome to download your own copy here (or Pin the image below to save it for later!):

 

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